Irony of the privileged one

The only two choices a woman in today’s world has is, to either live, or to live for herself. They all are living, but only a grain-like minority chooses to loosen itself from the norms, customs, and behavioral dictum, which are all gender-biased. But one dare say! Girls from well-educated families sometimes are more miserable than those who are not that privileged. These privileged hand puppets get education, shelter, and food but No freedom. No freedom to do what they aspire, or to stand where they desire. They are allowed to talk but not speak against the immortal customs of society. The expectations from the sibling of the same house by the parents differ because one of them is a boy and the other one is a girl. They have different curfews and allowances. The boy can bring home the girlfriend but a girl must restrict her choice in gender while befriending anyone. After all, she is the ‘Izzat’ of the house and she should stay within the ‘Maryada’.

With the increasing modernity in the new generation, we see more women have started drinking or smoking openly. Doing which they leave the men and women around astonished. As in an ideal (male-dominated) world, men could drink or smoke whereas women must not drink or smoke. For a simple reason, that it is not ethical! Do ethics say that men and women should be seen with a different eye? Modern society teaches us to be equal on all grounds, but the reality seems to differ from the teachings we receive.

The educated, open-minded husband might be all right with his wife earning more than him but who is to say about the aunties, neighbors, and friends? How do you feel when your wife gets a better paycheque than you? These questions being asked constantly leads to an obvious rise of the man’s Ego. He, after all, has been raised in a world where patriarchy prevails, then how come his wife’s better check not bothering him? It does! Eventually leading to fights and in extreme cases leaving the wife with two rash choices of either leaving the job or her husband. How fair is that? In society today, we can clearly say, that tradition is just being veiled by modernity, there is nothing as modernism or liberalism beyond that thin veil.

When the male of the family goes for a business trip, he is encouraged but if the daughter needs to write an article on the nightlife of the city, she is told:” she should consider a day job ”. A profession where she is back before dusk. Dreams of a man are stepping stones for a better future but dreams of a woman should be left untouched. Even when the woman gets married it changes not much for her, a fancy wedding to let her know that her responsibilities have increased and she must learn to prioritize family before career. With the marriage knot, all her hopes are tied to the post, she is then taken to a better, more glittery golden cage. She would be let to fly when the new family would want to show off the beautiful colors of the new bird’s wings, but as her old master, there would be someone clipping her wings in the name of tradition and protection.

Years after the independence, after hundreds of moments regarding, dowry cases, equal rights, here we are, still struggling for equality with our brothers and husbands. An equal stand with every male in society. This leaves us wondering if the bird would ever be allowed to leave the perfect golden cage to turn her imperfect life to a perfect one.

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